A sad story of Rigden

This is the true story of my friend who studies in Sherubtse College. I share this with the prior permission from the friend of mine. He is in his final semester and same is with the girl he loves. The time went by. Three years has past within no time for Rigden, but sadly he could not express what he felt for this long years for Namgay, the girl of his choice. In his final year and specifically in his final semester, he took his chance and courage to share his feelings for her. It wasn't a good try and a good outcome irrespective of so much hope that he had from Namgay. So, my heart was heavy and my eyes were filled with tear when Rigden shared his story to me with so much courage and respect. So, I would like to share this true and heart touching story for all of my readers.

Some say life is bed of roses. Others say life is what you make out of it. Many say life is a stage in a cycle of karma. But for a poor guy, Rigden he could not say anything of its kind for his own life. He sometimes defines life to be tragic, sometimes agony, sometimes fun, sometimes undefinable existence in this world of everything. He sad so much hope from Namgay. He spent almost all fractions of second in his college days thinking of her. No matter what it was himself who had to bear an agonizing pain for so long. He blames no one but himself for not being able to express what he felt.

Towards the end of his college life, he felt that was only the chance in his life to express himself to her. He felt it's just and exhilarating parasite of pain that he may have to bear his whole life if he is unable to tell Namgay. Facebook was only the mode of communication for them. He had her number but his hesitation was huge that he refused to do so. Nevertheless, he expressed his feelings to her through the chats in Facebook. When I asked about how they were into friend list through Facebook, my poor friend in laughter said that he could vividly remember how did it happened. 

"For the first few chats, it was normal. I expressed but she just took it into a joke. But later days were not very good response", my friend explained me with a soft tone. He said that he could not believe her when she that she has to follow an age-old culture and tradition of so called "Arranged Marriage". He said "she was good enough if she would have told truth for me, she said she doesn't want to flirt with me and hurt me later when eventually she has to follow advise of her parents." I myself could not bear the pain of my friend yet, I tried to console him in all my possible ways.

Then he shares all his secrets to me. He said he still feels bad on himself when he shared his conversation through chats in Facebook: "It’s true that I am unable to help you like other boys would do for their loved ones. It’s true that am from a very low background. It’s true that I am not a good looking man either. Sometimes late on my bed I always wish myself to have the above qualities. Actually I too have a mind to be good, to make you happy and help you in all possible ways. What to do my dear, my wish is always unfulfilled as I could do nothing to make you believe that I am a true man in your life. 

My wish as you know was to die in your arms gazing to your eyes but it is not fulfilled. No matter, live your life happily and meaningfully. I pray for your happiness only.

I could share no more as I get more emotional and sentimental as I express. Think wisely but my last wish for you now is to be happy and be a good human being."  He explained me that even Namgay could not take such words and for she cried. Later Rigden called her but it was in her sad tone she talked to him. He apologized her for expressing what he felt for her and he promised not to do so. He promised to keep his secrets all in himself whether an exhilarating pain erodes his heart or not. 

Lastly, he told me "Be careful friend. Life is short but it becomes so long if it turn the way like it did in mine."

MAY MY FRIEND BE IN BE IN PEACE AGAIN.

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Extra Marital Life

Bhutan, the land of thunder dragon is being blessed by Guru Padma Sambhawa in 746 A.D and Zhabdrung Rinpoche in 17th century. Guru traveled to most parts of the country like Paro, Trongsa and Bumthang. He has spread Buddhism in these places. Later Zhabdrung Ngawang Namgyel came from Tibet and ruled Bhutan as the Spiritual Leader. He too has spread Buddhism in the country. They were then followed by so many great saints and masters who practiced and preached Buddhism in the country. The people in the country believed and had so much faith in Buddhism. They believe in Life after Death. So there were always the fears to do any sinful acts having belief that they might acquire sins whereby they themselves will have to bear the consequences after they die.

Our forefathers, those ancient generations were so much faithful in all the acts they did. There was no concept of any marital life. They believed that they may accumulate sins if they did such things. When I say these things, I may not be the perfect judge, yet I want to share what I feel. There were no many cases where wives and husbands got divorced. There were no many cases where children were suffered. I don’t know if the things went unturned. 

On contrary the present generation is changed. No one thinks about their own behaviors. There is no much respect and belief to our religion, culture and customs. If something suits them for time being, that is final and binding. The world has reached where people enjoy extra marital life. 

Once he is away from his wife and children, he forgets everything. He goes for study tour, further studies and other works. He is young enough to enjoy not less than his teenage enjoyment. He runs after young girls, sponsors them and even gets into the relation with her. He pretends to be unmarried and does all unexpected things to the girl. He even goes to the extent in impregnating the girl. In doing so, first thing is he spoils the life of the girl. Aims and dreams in her life are all shattered. No wonder she is no better than life in the hell.

Secondly, some men leave their wives and children and goes for the new wife. In this case, previous wife and children of that man suffer so much. Wife is very upset and she is unable to care her children. Now this is the time when children get their bitter share in their lives. They don’t get enough love and care from their parents. This is when children get involved in all mischievous behaviors. They take alcohol, drugs and even in gang fights.

When I say all about men, viewers reading this blog might think that men may be only the ones doing all those unexpected behaviors, women do it too. When they are also away from their husband and children they too think of enjoyment. They get indulged in all non sense acts which I actually don’t like to mention here. Some women go to the extent even in getting impregnated by other man. Same things as I mentioned in case of man happen. 

Boys and girls, Men and women! Those of you, who are involved in such actions, please think wisely upon the topic and have the best second thought on it. Think about your future consequences. Country of ours is Buddhist country which has strong belief in respect, care, love and sympathy. So I would like to request to think once over it and behave.

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How a wife should treat her husband??

Marriage is just once in our precious life time. But I find most of the modern people take an advantage of it. They divorce any time they like to. So, I don’t want to be in any such condition. I think the main reason for such divorce is that any one of the two or both are not satisfied with the other. So, it is extremely important for a wife to understand about her husband and same in case of a husband. Both must know how and when to make the life happy and enjoyable. So, here I wanted to share how should my wife treat me. But I don’t mean to say that only she must treat me in such condition, I will never fail to do my share to her. One thing I must apologize my readers: It is not that only a girl must do it for her wife but a husband must do the same if not better for her wife.

The marriage should be maturely treated and kindness should be shown at all times. No disrespect to each other in public or to family members or friends. Wife must not treat her wife like a money bag , or a sex toy , or a garbage bin full of pain and mistreatment. Instead she must treat him as a source of happiness and joy.

Both should mold each other and grow in love. Honor each other. Create a trusting relationship. Always take the others’ feelings into consideration in everything you do. Be open and communicate in every situation, from the smallest of things to the biggest. Be faithful. Husband will never accept if a wife talks something and does something different. It is same in the case of a husband towards the wife.

A wife must do whatever she can do to make him look good, to accomplish his goals. Some examples are offer to run errands for him, organize her day to be available to help him with his projects, pray for him and make good suggestions. Give him the freedom not to use your suggestion, and do not be offended if he does not follow it.

A good wife must know that her husband is sensitive about her honoring him as a man. A good wife must also let her husband know that she loves him by kissing him, hugging him, holding his hand, and making him chicken soup when he is sick, because we all know when a man is sick he loves to be pampered. Love your husband the way you wanted him to treat you.

HAPPY MARRIAGE

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