Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts

A sad story of Rigden

This is the true story of my friend who studies in Sherubtse College. I share this with the prior permission from the friend of mine. He is in his final semester and same is with the girl he loves. The time went by. Three years has past within no time for Rigden, but sadly he could not express what he felt for this long years for Namgay, the girl of his choice. In his final year and specifically in his final semester, he took his chance and courage to share his feelings for her. It wasn't a good try and a good outcome irrespective of so much hope that he had from Namgay. So, my heart was heavy and my eyes were filled with tear when Rigden shared his story to me with so much courage and respect. So, I would like to share this true and heart touching story for all of my readers.
Some say life is bed of roses. Others say life is what you make out of it. Many say life is a stage in a cycle of karma. But for a poor guy, Rigden he could not say anything of its kind for his own life. He sometimes defines life to be tragic, sometimes agony, sometimes fun, sometimes undefinable existence in this world of everything. He sad so much hope from Namgay. He spent almost all fractions of second in his college days thinking of her. No matter what it was himself who had to bear an agonizing pain for so long. He blames no one but himself for not being able to express what he felt.

Towards the end of his college life, he felt that was only the chance in his life to express himself to her. He felt it's just and exhilarating parasite of pain that he may have to bear his whole life if he is unable to tell Namgay. Facebook was only the mode of communication for them. He had her number but his hesitation was huge that he refused to do so. Nevertheless, he expressed his feelings to her through the chats in Facebook. When I asked about how they were into friend list through Facebook, my poor friend in laughter said that he could vividly remember how did it happened. 

"For the first few chats, it was normal. I expressed but she just took it into a joke. But later days were not very good response", my friend explained me with a soft tone. He said that he could not believe her when she that she has to follow an age-old culture and tradition of so called "Arranged Marriage". He said "she was good enough if she would have told truth for me, she said she doesn't want to flirt with me and hurt me later when eventually she has to follow advise of her parents." I myself could not bear the pain of my friend yet, I tried to console him in all my possible ways.

Then he shares all his secrets to me. He said he still feels bad on himself when he shared his conversation through chats in Facebook: "It’s true that I am unable to help you like other boys would do for their loved ones. It’s true that am from a very low background. It’s true that I am not a good looking man either. Sometimes late on my bed I always wish myself to have the above qualities. Actually I too have a mind to be good, to make you happy and help you in all possible ways. What to do my dear, my wish is always unfulfilled as I could do nothing to make you believe that I am a true man in your life. 

My wish as you know was to die in your arms gazing to your eyes but it is not fulfilled. No matter, live your life happily and meaningfully. I pray for your happiness only.

I could share no more as I get more emotional and sentimental as I express. Think wisely but my last wish for you now is to be happy and be a good human being."  He explained me that even Namgay could not take such words and for she cried. Later Rigden called her but it was in her sad tone she talked to him. He apologized her for expressing what he felt for her and he promised not to do so. He promised to keep his secrets all in himself whether an exhilarating pain erodes his heart or not. 

Lastly, he told me "Be careful friend. Life is short but it becomes so long if it turn the way like it did in mine."

MAY MY FRIEND BE IN BE IN PEACE AGAIN.

Things happen unexpectedly.........

First of all when I write my post on aforementioned subject, I wonder that my readers may mistake it to be because of a boy_girl relationship. So before I get too late and my readers get too stimulated to think about it, let me say the answer will be a big NO.

It is always easy to lecture to someone. It is the most easiest to advise someone about something. You may or may not be expert in that particular ground. Still you can be the one to talk about that particular topic. There is no different in my case. I can also advise any group of ages of people in any grounds. I can pursue and make people believe in me. But when it comes to practice, I feel it is really difficult. When I say this, I don't mean that I am too pessimistic or too optimistic but I wanna be realistic in this issue. 

It is really difficult and challenging when the river changes its course. Its is heart aching when a bird flies away leaving the chicks all alone in the nest. Moreover, we have to bear an exhilarating pain when things happen unexpectedly. In this very juncture, it is very hard for me to express anything here in my post which goes globally in the net. Yet, I feel the need to do so, so that I think the pain of keeping my words that are competing to come out in my heart may be relieved.

I know that education is really important in life. I also very well know that nothing can suffice it. With this notion, I got an opportunity to pursue my undergraduate studies in Royal Thimphu College. Having been here for almost three years now and nearing towards my graduation, I also know the importance of my grades. As all the graduates might be knowing the tight space work in the civil service of the Royal Government of Bhutan, I also understand the unemployment rate in Bhutan.

So, with that in the cerebrum of my brain I always worked hard. I burnt my midnight candles besides the other social service works that I always had to do. Irrespective of having planned accordingly and having worked hard to achieve my personal goal of "work hard and strive to be best", nowadays all things happen unexpectedly. I cry, I yarn and sometimes even my blood try to flow out of my veins, I try to console myself. Its really tough and challenging to do so, yet there is no other way left than to just keep calm an enduring it with respect.

I sometimes feel where do things go wrong? I question myself, where did I plan wrong? But all answers were just a time-consuming; I could find answer to none of them. I lay on my bed, then think of the purpose of life. I take life to be just a body and a mind sometimes. I feel mind will leave my body one day and there is no much to worry. Moreover, life being full of ups and downs, it is pretty sure all things won't be perfect.

This post of mine is actually not intended to share what I have faced but I wanna share the message to all my readers: All are impermanent. Life is not permanent too. Do not waste your time indulging upon those impermanence. AND NOTHING IS PERFECT TOO.

Happy Teachers' Day

Teachers are an important and an integral part in the journey of my life. I could vividly remember how I have been in the initial stage of my life and I proudly could see the vast difference in my life as of now. The credit goes to all of my teachers of the past and the present. I know this short but heartiest gratitude of mine would not be able to reach to all of teachers of mine yet I wish all of you "HAPPY TEACHERS' DAY".

Teachers' Day is celebrated whole over the world. It is also celebrated in our country to pay a  tribute to the valuable contribution made by teachers to the society by imparting knowledge and enlightening and shaping the career of students. Celebration of Teacher's Day is fairly popular in Bhutan, whereby I join my fellow-students in wishing the teachers all over the world "the most Happiest Teachers' Day". 

In Bhutan 2nd May coincides with the Birth Anniversary of our Third Druk Gyalpo Jigme Dorji Wangchuk- the father of modern Bhutan. The third King of Bhutan worked tirelessly to get tied-up with the neighboring countries whereby the developmental works began in his reign. So, on this joyous occasion, I join the nation in paying the heartfelt tribute and homage to the Third Druk Gyalpo.

I am actually proud to be what I am today. I would not have been in this stage being molded from the animal-ism stage to an humane-like creature. This is because I had an opportunity to be with the world's best teachers. I’m happy that you all were and are my teachers; I enjoyed and enjoy each lesson you teach. I always found guidance, friendship, discipline and love, everything, in one person. All of my teachers possess these. I know you all will live in peace, harmony and prosperity for all times to come because I always pray for you all. I know all of you were always true! I am fortunate and happy to have teacher as wonderful loving & caring as you all!

HAPPY TEACHERS' DAY. I LOVE AND MISS YOU ALL. MAY ALL OF YOU LIVE LONG AND HAPPY!

 

 

 

Extra Marital Life

Bhutan, the land of thunder dragon is being blessed by Guru Padma Sambhawa in 746 A.D and Zhabdrung Rinpoche in 17th century. Guru traveled to most parts of the country like Paro, Trongsa and Bumthang. He has spread Buddhism in these places. Later Zhabdrung Ngawang Namgyel came from Tibet and ruled Bhutan as the Spiritual Leader. He too has spread Buddhism in the country. They were then followed by so many great saints and masters who practiced and preached Buddhism in the country. The people in the country believed and had so much faith in Buddhism. They believe in Life after Death. So there were always the fears to do any sinful acts having belief that they might acquire sins whereby they themselves will have to bear the consequences after they die.

Our forefathers, those ancient generations were so much faithful in all the acts they did. There was no concept of any marital life. They believed that they may accumulate sins if they did such things. When I say these things, I may not be the perfect judge, yet I want to share what I feel. There were no many cases where wives and husbands got divorced. There were no many cases where children were suffered. I don’t know if the things went unturned. 

On contrary the present generation is changed. No one thinks about their own behaviors. There is no much respect and belief to our religion, culture and customs. If something suits them for time being, that is final and binding. The world has reached where people enjoy extra marital life. 

Once he is away from his wife and children, he forgets everything. He goes for study tour, further studies and other works. He is young enough to enjoy not less than his teenage enjoyment. He runs after young girls, sponsors them and even gets into the relation with her. He pretends to be unmarried and does all unexpected things to the girl. He even goes to the extent in impregnating the girl. In doing so, first thing is he spoils the life of the girl. Aims and dreams in her life are all shattered. No wonder she is no better than life in the hell.

Secondly, some men leave their wives and children and goes for the new wife. In this case, previous wife and children of that man suffer so much. Wife is very upset and she is unable to care her children. Now this is the time when children get their bitter share in their lives. They don’t get enough love and care from their parents. This is when children get involved in all mischievous behaviors. They take alcohol, drugs and even in gang fights.

When I say all about men, viewers reading this blog might think that men may be only the ones doing all those unexpected behaviors, women do it too. When they are also away from their husband and children they too think of enjoyment. They get indulged in all non sense acts which I actually don’t like to mention here. Some women go to the extent even in getting impregnated by other man. Same things as I mentioned in case of man happen. 

Boys and girls, Men and women! Those of you, who are involved in such actions, please think wisely upon the topic and have the best second thought on it. Think about your future consequences. Country of ours is Buddhist country which has strong belief in respect, care, love and sympathy. So I would like to request to think once over it and behave.

How a wife should treat her husband??

Marriage is just once in our precious life time. But I find most of the modern people take an advantage of it. They divorce any time they like to. So, I don’t want to be in any such condition. I think the main reason for such divorce is that any one of the two or both are not satisfied with the other. So, it is extremely important for a wife to understand about her husband and same in case of a husband. Both must know how and when to make the life happy and enjoyable. So, here I wanted to share how should my wife treat me. But I don’t mean to say that only she must treat me in such condition, I will never fail to do my share to her. One thing I must apologize my readers: It is not that only a girl must do it for her wife but a husband must do the same if not better for her wife.





The marriage should be maturely treated and kindness should be shown at all times. No disrespect to each other in public or to family members or friends. Wife must not treat her wife like a money bag , or a sex toy , or a garbage bin full of pain and mistreatment. Instead she must treat him as a source of happiness and joy.


Both should mold each other and grow in love. Honor each other. Create a trusting relationship. Always take the others’ feelings into consideration in everything you do. Be open and communicate in every situation, from the smallest of things to the biggest. Be faithful. Husband will never accept if a wife talks something and does something different. It is same in the case of a husband towards the wife.

A wife must do whatever she can do to make him look good, to accomplish his goals. Some examples are offer to run errands for him, organize her day to be available to help him with his projects, pray for him and make good suggestions. Give him the freedom not to use your suggestion, and do not be offended if he does not follow it.

A good wife must know that her husband is sensitive about her honoring him as a man. A good wife must also let her husband know that she loves him by kissing him, hugging him, holding his hand, and making him chicken soup when he is sick, because we all know when a man is sick he loves to be pampered. Love your husband the way you wanted him to treat you.

HAPPY MARRIAGE

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU

My beautiful GIRL

Hello my precious girl, now in this very special day for you, I want to write and dedicate this letter from my core of heart…. better not say it. As I woke up yesterday thinking of you with the greatest desire to be the first to greet you HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE! 

Yesterday I saw the sky burst forth and filled my soul to be an exceptional day, now look like the paintings of the sun melt and portray your name here on the shores of my heart, this heart that beats to remember the caresses your lips and puffy clouds embrace my skin. Also observe how gradually dyed blue and gray in one color, one soul, in one sense, to the heavenly hosts a brigade dealer covering my love for you.

It seems clear that only my love for you live, breathe only for you, right? But my lovely Angel, that alone is not enough to tell you you’re everything to me, I need to tell you you’re the reason I’m happy, are the reason that makes me smile and dream of a tomorrow where your hand this merged mine and walk through valleys and mountains watching our love grow this beyond all dreams, for you my beautiful warbler that my dream is to remain always at your side. 

At your side my love, where I finally found my peace, my calm, my happiness, my queen beside you where the most beautiful sounds are combined into one, is when your voice dry my wet lips and feel breathing again, I feel like a gust of fresh wind and flood my airs live, live my queen, I live because I found you, because you have to turn my life hope and make it a reality. Every time I plunge into the serenity of your eyes gives me always the infinite ocean of color guards behind those beautiful eyes my queen, because without you I can never look and live, you are my sun and my sea latent, are the lake where the moon reflects and makes my night favorite place to fall and give in to you. 

I love how much more if you get to love everything my love? If only you knew that every morning I think to myself it was conquered again and again for the memories I have of you, my love memories to this day are the most beautiful that I cherish in my heart. Give me time and again kisses bring me and lead me into this beautiful world where the moon light escaping through your smile, give me time and again that look at where we combine the love and peace, my happiness, where you keep all this my eternal love for you! 

You’re the most beautiful of all the flowers start to bloom the petals full of life, full of love. They are the symbol of a beautiful woman whose birthday is today and I thank God because he allowed one of the most beautiful flowers to born on 2nd February, 22 years ago. 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY BEAUTIFUL QUEEN! I LOVE YOU. 

Each year you become more beautiful.
Always yours, mine always, always together.